Don't speak to yourself like that

In English it’s common to describe a behaviour or an action as ‘unacceptable’. This language is unhelpful.  First, we have already judged the action. Second, we close our mind to deeper examination of the motives and reasons underlying it.  Last, we pursue denial if we describe something as unacceptable: it’s the easiest way to brush difficulties under our radar, similar to describing brutal criminals as ‘animals’.

When we accept an action, behaviour or event, we are able to hold it in our mind, examine it, and engage with it.  Unable to accept something, we create barriers and form judgments on no more than a superficial emotional response.

So don’t casually condemn something as unacceptable.  Make the mental effort to accept it, understand it and act from a position of knowledge instead of prejudice.